Stress-Hardiness


  1. They have a sense of meaning, direction, and purpose. They are value-centered rather than reactive and defensive. They understand that emotions are great sources of energy and motivation but are often poor guides for action. Instead these people use their values as guides.
  2. They realize that the quality of our lives depends on how we focus our energy and our attention. They try to align their thoughts and actions with their values. They know how to motivate themselves to take action.
  3. They don’t judge themselves or others harshly when things go wrong. They focus on what they want, not on what they don’t want.
  4. They are able to tolerate ambiguity, uncertainty, and imperfection. They have a long-range perspective, so they give themselves and others room to grow. They can afford to be resilient, flexible, and creative because they are centered in their values.
  5. They are reasonably optimistic and have a sense of humor. Even though they are dedicated to doing things well, they don’t take themselves too seriously.
  6. They take responsibility for their mental programming, their emotions, and their actions. If they have ineffective ways of thinking and behaving, they evaluate them and make appropriate changes.
  7. They look at adversity as a challenge rather than as a threat. They realize that no matter how the present situation turns out, they will learn and grow from it.
  8. They respect themselves and other people. They have a spirit of cooperation, looking for win-win solutions rather than trying to win over other people or ignoring their own wants and needs because of fear.
  9. They are grateful for the good things in their lives.
  10. They know how to mourn the inevitable losses in life. They know how to let go of things they have no control over.

39 Responses to Stress-Hardiness

  1. @Stephen says:

    This is a great list, and I am going to link to it! Thank you for sharing this with us. Many people that I have encountered have trouble keeping things in perspective, which can lead to all sorts of needless worry and heartache.

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  4. Very good, concise summary of proactive habits. Put it on my del.icio.us link list.

  5. My only tweak would be on number 4, “They are able to tolerate ambiguity”. I don’t think that should apply to people who are not being in integrity with you. I figure you are talking about situations more than people.

    LOVE number 6.

  6. Jean says:

    Thanks, Stephen and Rolf. :)

    Hayden,
    Yes, I was thinking of situations rather than people in Number 4. But I can think of interactions with people where tolerance and patience would be appropriate. Again, the important thing is the long-range perspective and giving yourselves and others room to grow.

    Number 6 is one of my favorites, too.

    Thank you all for coming by and commenting.

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  10. Giul says:

    This is very relevant for me! I’ve posted a link on my blog. Thanks!

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    The 10 Traits for Stress Hardy & Resilient People is all of it ” in a nutshell”. The 10 Commandments of Psychology.

  24. Jean says:

    bikehikebabe,
    :) Thanks! You made my evening.

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