Comments on: How to Stay Happy Always

By: adlynn

adlynn — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 06:18:54 +0000

hearing someone says ‘i love you’ makes you feel appreciated…which also makes you happy..

By: Jean

Jean — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 03:13:57 +0000

Grannymar,
I’m with you. I don’t live in a dangerous area, but I’ve always been conscious of how fragile life can be. Thank you for coming by and commenting.

By: Grannymar

Grannymar — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 18:29:25 +0000

The words 'I love you' were not used very often when I was a child. Living all my married life in a troubled Northern Ireland, I was conscious that when my husband left for work each day there was always the chance he would not come home. That alone made saying 'I love you' very important. Grannymars last blog post..24th March

By: Jean

Jean — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 00:32:28 +0000

Square Peg Guy,
“Actions speak louder than words.” Yes and no. I know people who use the L word but their actions don’t congruent with the words. And I’m sure rummuser’s family knows he loves them, but I’ll bet it’s more than just what he does for them. It’s his nonverbal communication as he does it. But I also know a lot of guys whose fathers cared for the family and worked hard to provide for them, but the love didn’t come through to the kids. Presumably the mother knew the father cared, but I’ll bet she wished he could have communicated it better, either verbally or nonverbally.

By: Square Peg Guy

Square Peg Guy — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 00:04:33 +0000

Thanks bikehikebabe for sharing that and Jean for publishing it! In reading the comments about love, I starting thinking of the saying "actions speak louder than words" and became momentarily overwhelmed from my wife's actions of love for our daughter and me. She fights off pain and fatigue to try to be a mom and wife. I suspect rummuser need not say to his family "I love you." He tells them that through actions everyday. Square Peg Guys last blog post..Blah Blah

By: rummuser

rummuser — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 16:18:34 +0000

Jean, you are a treat too. I have indeed figured that out alright. No problem responding with the L word for me. The problem is in initiating it. With the kind of practice I am getting here, I am sure to be able to handle that too! Thank you. rummusers last blog post..Never Born, Never Died, Just Visited This Planet. - Osho.

By: Jean

Jean — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 20:14:38 +0000

rummuser,
When you think the other person expects you to respond, “I love you too”…if you feel affection for the person what if you just smiled and said, “That goes both ways.” Would that work for you? It would return the warmth without having to use the L word.

By: Jean

Jean — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 19:23:39 +0000

rummuser and bikehikebabe,
This business of saying “I love you,” is a hard one for me. I feel love a lot more than I say it because I know it would make some people uncomfortable. I think it’s a sad commentary that anger is a more socially acceptable emotion than feelings of warmth, affection and love.

Just in case you haven’t figured it out, I love you both.

By: rummuser

rummuser — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 15:41:15 +0000

bikehikebabe, you are a treat you are. I love you. rummusers last blog post..Never Born, Never Died, Just Visited This Planet. - Osho.

By: bikehikebabe

bikehikebabe — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 15:14:52 +0000

Actually rummuser, don’t do that. That would make anyone uncomfortable. They know you love them.