Comments on: Courage, Equanimity and Love http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/19/courage-equanimity-and-love/ Stress Hardiness, Optimizing Stress, Being Fully Alive Sun, 13 May 2012 21:27:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/19/courage-equanimity-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-2278 Jean Fri, 24 Oct 2008 20:34:09 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=564#comment-2278 rummuser, :) Your comment about getting angry reminds me of a joke: "I don't have stress. I give stress to others." Have you ever known anyone like that? rummuser,
:) Your comment about getting angry reminds me of a joke: “I don’t have stress. I give stress to others.”

Have you ever known anyone like that?

]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/19/courage-equanimity-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-2272 Jean Fri, 24 Oct 2008 01:16:44 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=564#comment-2272 rummuser, For me stress can be much smaller than that. For me the details in life is where I try to live my values. The first two stress-hardiness traits don't refer to situations where I feel overwhelmed: 1. They have a sense of meaning, direction, and purpose. They are value-centered rather than reactive and defensive. They understand that emotions are great sources of energy and motivation but are often poor guides for action. Instead these people use their values as guides. 2. They realize that the quality of our lives depends on how we focus our energy and our attention. They try to align their thoughts and actions with their values. They know how to motivate themselves to take action. For me the little stressors in life are a great chance to practice my spirituality. Thanks for sharing your perspective. That's what this site is about. :) Maya, I just put all of my ideas on my Possibility List. I don't feel obligated to do any of them. When the time is right I'll one. As the saying goes, what we leave out of a work of art is as important as what we put in it. :) See Are You Spending Enough Time "Doing Nothing?" : http://cheerfulmonk.com/2007/12/10/are-you-spending-enough-time-doing-nothing/ rummuser,
For me stress can be much smaller than that. For me the details in life is where I try to live my values. The first two stress-hardiness traits don’t refer to situations where I feel overwhelmed:

1. They have a sense of meaning, direction, and purpose. They are value-centered rather than reactive and defensive. They understand that emotions are great sources of energy and motivation but are often poor guides for action. Instead these people use their values as guides.

2. They realize that the quality of our lives depends on how we focus our energy and our attention. They try to align their thoughts and actions with their values. They know how to motivate themselves to take action.

For me the little stressors in life are a great chance to practice my spirituality.

Thanks for sharing your perspective. That’s what this site is about. :)

Maya,
I just put all of my ideas on my Possibility List. I don’t feel obligated to do any of them. When the time is right I’ll one. As the saying goes, what we leave out of a work of art is as important as what we put in it. :)

See Are You Spending Enough Time “Doing Nothing?” : http://cheerfulmonk.com/2007/12/10/are-you-spending-enough-time-doing-nothing/

]]> By: Maya http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/19/courage-equanimity-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-2270 Maya Thu, 23 Oct 2008 18:25:33 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=564#comment-2270 Hi Jean, My biggest problem is my over thinking brain! I get a million ideas and I want to do something with each of them. It is havoc in my brain.It is worse since I quit my job since I feel that there are no limits to what I can do ;) I try to externalize. I try to calm down by talking about things. I try to be aware of when my brain starts to over work itself :) Hi Jean,

My biggest problem is my over thinking brain! I get a million ideas and I want to do something with each of them. It is havoc in my brain.It is worse since I quit my job since I feel that there are no limits to what I can do ;)

I try to externalize. I try to calm down by talking about things. I try to be aware of when my brain starts to over work itself :)

]]> By: rummuser http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/19/courage-equanimity-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-2269 rummuser Thu, 23 Oct 2008 18:12:31 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=564#comment-2269 I would define stress as that condition where I feel overwhelmed by events or circumstances and become tense and anxious with my inability to handle that situation. In retrospect, I have had occasions like this, but for very brief periods but I was able to snap out of it by being practical and taking help. rummusers last blog post..<a href="http://rummuser.com/?p=356" rel="nofollow">Indophiles.</a> I would define stress as that condition where I feel overwhelmed by events or circumstances and become tense and anxious with my inability to handle that situation. In retrospect, I have had occasions like this, but for very brief periods but I was able to snap out of it by being practical and taking help.

rummusers last blog post..Indophiles.

]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/19/courage-equanimity-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-2267 Jean Tue, 21 Oct 2008 19:50:33 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=564#comment-2267 rummuser, Thanks! What exactly do you mean by the word "stress"? What were you observing in people when they said they were stressed and you thought they were hamming? I suppose for me stress is when I'm being tossed around by my emotions, whether fear, anger, mourning, etc. It's not that those emotions are "bad", it's just that when they occur I need to consciously choose my response to what triggered them. rummuser,
Thanks! What exactly do you mean by the word “stress”? What were you observing in people when they said they were stressed and you thought they were hamming?

I suppose for me stress is when I’m being tossed around by my emotions, whether fear, anger, mourning, etc. It’s not that those emotions are “bad”, it’s just that when they occur I need to consciously choose my response to what triggered them.

]]> By: rummuser http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/19/courage-equanimity-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-2266 rummuser Tue, 21 Oct 2008 16:16:14 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=564#comment-2266 Please feel free to. Yes we went through some hard knocks but, we came out of them quite successfully. I think that I had mentioned it earlier, we are both meditators. I suppose that helped though at the worst periods, it was difficult to ever meditate. Another thing that helped was that both of us asked for and got expert help. During my working life, I was surprisingly enough not under stress at all. I always felt that people who showed stress were hamming. There really was no need. May be, my employers were benign or the times were different. I don't however remember being stressed ever. Annoyed, disappointed, angry, sad etc yes, but stressed? I must say no. rummusers last blog post..<a href="http://rummuser.com/?p=344" rel="nofollow">Is This Good Journalism?</a> Please feel free to.

Yes we went through some hard knocks but, we came out of them quite successfully. I think that I had mentioned it earlier, we are both meditators. I suppose that helped though at the worst periods, it was difficult to ever meditate. Another thing that helped was that both of us asked for and got expert help.

During my working life, I was surprisingly enough not under stress at all. I always felt that people who showed stress were hamming. There really was no need. May be, my employers were benign or the times were different. I don’t however remember being stressed ever. Annoyed, disappointed, angry, sad etc yes, but stressed? I must say no.

rummusers last blog post..Is This Good Journalism?

]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/19/courage-equanimity-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-2264 Jean Mon, 20 Oct 2008 19:14:25 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=564#comment-2264 PS I hope it's all right if I include your picture here. I corroborates what you've written! <img src="http://stresstopower.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2008/10/rummuser-150x150.jpg" alt="rummuser picture" /> PS I hope it’s all right if I include your picture here. I corroborates what you’ve written!
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]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/19/courage-equanimity-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-2263 Jean Mon, 20 Oct 2008 19:06:40 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=564#comment-2263 rummuser, Was that true even when you were working? I had the impression that when you and your wife were younger you went through some stressful periods. Did you need any special techniques then? I do know that you have a great sense of humor and laugh a lot. Do you think that helps? :) Anyway, good for you! rummuser,
Was that true even when you were working? I had the impression that when you and your wife were younger you went through some stressful periods. Did you need any special techniques then? I do know that you have a great sense of humor and laugh a lot. Do you think that helps?

:) Anyway, good for you!

]]> By: rummuser http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/19/courage-equanimity-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-2262 rummuser Mon, 20 Oct 2008 17:58:02 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=564#comment-2262 Jean, I am naturally blessed. Hardly ever under stress. My natural blood pressure is also low! For the world of it, I can not remember the last time that I was angry. I do recall that it was road rage, but quite when is something that escapes me. Certainly more than three years though. Since my natural state is easy going, I do not use any technique! I guess that I am just lucky. rummusers last blog post..<a href="http://rummuser.com/?p=337" rel="nofollow">Declare Emergency In India - II</a> Jean, I am naturally blessed. Hardly ever under stress. My natural blood pressure is also low! For the world of it, I can not remember the last time that I was angry. I do recall that it was road rage, but quite when is something that escapes me. Certainly more than three years though.

Since my natural state is easy going, I do not use any technique! I guess that I am just lucky.

rummusers last blog post..Declare Emergency In India – II

]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/19/courage-equanimity-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-2259 Jean Mon, 20 Oct 2008 03:14:52 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=564#comment-2259 Evelyn, That's why I teach stress management, so I'm forced to practice what I preach. Could you share the techniques you yourself use? Evelyn,
That’s why I teach stress management, so I’m forced to practice what I preach. Could you share the techniques you yourself use?

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