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]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/12/what-i-learned-from-losing-loved-ones/comment-page-1/#comment-2253 Jean Sat, 18 Oct 2008 20:56:36 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=562#comment-2253 Diane, Amen to that. I agree with you about the power of nonverbal communication...your aunt could still convey her love. Bless her! And you, for sharing this and your other stories. Diane,
Amen to that. I agree with you about the power of nonverbal communication…your aunt could still convey her love. Bless her! And you, for sharing this and your other stories.

]]> By: Diane http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/12/what-i-learned-from-losing-loved-ones/comment-page-1/#comment-2248 Diane Sat, 18 Oct 2008 07:49:43 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=562#comment-2248 Hi all, In 2005 our family visited my husbands aunt as we usually do. She had been getting worse the last three years..hearing loss and not eating and multiple other things. It was so sweet she didn't say a word but showed me the guest room like the first time I had been there. And she hugged me mant times... The other family members were quite stand offish... and I remember certain conversations on her not being present. And I wasn't in total agreement with them but said nothing about it. She was the sweetest lady and I for one noticed that presence and even though she couldn't say it with words her mannerism said it all. Don't under estimate spirit even when other things are diminishing. That was the last time I saw her as she passed away about 7 months later. Don't underestimate your connections in this life. And nurture the ones you have and new ones as well. Hi all,

In 2005 our family visited my husbands aunt as we usually do. She had been getting worse the last three years..hearing loss and not eating and multiple other things. It was so sweet she didn’t say a word but showed me the guest room like the first time I had been there. And she hugged me mant times…

The other family members were quite stand offish… and I remember certain conversations on her not being present.
And I wasn’t in total agreement with them but said nothing about it. She was the sweetest lady and I for one noticed that presence and even though she couldn’t say it with words her mannerism said it all. Don’t under estimate spirit even when other things are diminishing. That was the last time I saw her as she passed away about 7 months later. Don’t underestimate your connections in this life. And nurture the ones you have and new ones as well.

]]> By: Diane http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/12/what-i-learned-from-losing-loved-ones/comment-page-1/#comment-2247 Diane Sat, 18 Oct 2008 07:25:29 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=562#comment-2247 HI, I so agree with that ... appreciation of people that are in our lives both close and in between. Strangers make my day quite often. That is a valuable lesson and to remember that. It can bring with it a renewed gratitude for life. In all that it is. HI,

I so agree with that … appreciation of people that are in our lives both close and in between. Strangers make my day quite often. That is a valuable lesson and to remember that. It can bring with it a renewed gratitude for life. In all that it is.

]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/12/what-i-learned-from-losing-loved-ones/comment-page-1/#comment-2242 Jean Fri, 17 Oct 2008 21:34:45 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=562#comment-2242 Jackie, Thank you. I agree, that's the great lesson...to appreciate people while they, and we, are still here. Our positive, can-do culture denies the idea of death. I think we're cheating ourselves and our loved ones when we do that. Jackie,
Thank you.

I agree, that’s the great lesson…to appreciate people while they, and we, are still here. Our positive, can-do culture denies the idea of death. I think we’re cheating ourselves and our loved ones when we do that.

]]> By: Jackie Cameron http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/12/what-i-learned-from-losing-loved-ones/comment-page-1/#comment-2238 Jackie Cameron Fri, 17 Oct 2008 14:10:14 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=562#comment-2238 My father in law lived with Alzheimers for the last 5 years of his life. When he died his mind - and his body - was nothing like that we remembered him for. His devoted wife had taken the best care she could and he had had to go into a care home. She hated that but she was physically (and emotionally) unable to look after him herself. Only 3 weeks after Dad died Mum was caught in a house fire and died from the affects of that 4 days later. Our loss was immense. Our sadness at losing them both was indescribable. But through the 55 years of being together the did little apart so somehow it was fitting. I learned a great deal about celebrating life as well as mourning death from this.... and I treasure the time I still have with my own parents. Jackie Camerons last blog post..<a href="http://www.consultcameron.com/2008/10/17/some-more-on-not-reading-your-slides/" rel="nofollow">Some more on not reading your slides</a> My father in law lived with Alzheimers for the last 5 years of his life. When he died his mind – and his body – was nothing like that we remembered him for. His devoted wife had taken the best care she could and he had had to go into a care home. She hated that but she was physically (and emotionally) unable to look after him herself. Only 3 weeks after Dad died Mum was caught in a house fire and died from the affects of that 4 days later. Our loss was immense. Our sadness at losing them both was indescribable. But through the 55 years of being together the did little apart so somehow it was fitting. I learned a great deal about celebrating life as well as mourning death from this…. and I treasure the time I still have with my own parents.

Jackie Camerons last blog post..Some more on not reading your slides

]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/12/what-i-learned-from-losing-loved-ones/comment-page-1/#comment-2229 Jean Thu, 16 Oct 2008 04:04:20 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=562#comment-2229 Diane, :) Thank you so much for sharing. I was raised a Catholic, but I was taken by the Hindu idea that all roads lead to God. I also love the idea of beginner's mind. Our minds are so small compared to the universe it seems silly to assume our personal views of the world represent the truth, the whole truth. Diane,
:) Thank you so much for sharing. I was raised a Catholic, but I was taken by the Hindu idea that all roads lead to God. I also love the idea of beginner’s mind. Our minds are so small compared to the universe it seems silly to assume our personal views of the world represent the truth, the whole truth.

]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/12/what-i-learned-from-losing-loved-ones/comment-page-1/#comment-2228 Jean Thu, 16 Oct 2008 03:42:15 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=562#comment-2228 Thom, Thank you. I enjoyed your posts and thought you had a great idea, going through the week on the same topic. rummuser, I like the idea of comparing emptying our lives to spring cleaning. I'm a great believer in the concept of beginner's mind. Thom,
Thank you. I enjoyed your posts and thought you had a great idea, going through the week on the same topic.

rummuser,
I like the idea of comparing emptying our lives to spring cleaning. I’m a great believer in the concept of beginner’s mind.

]]> By: Diane http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/12/what-i-learned-from-losing-loved-ones/comment-page-1/#comment-2227 Diane Thu, 16 Oct 2008 02:08:58 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=562#comment-2227 Jean, rummuser, and all, I just love your comments! As I am a Christian... I was raised Catholic each time I have been greeted by so many not all but many... They have said this Oh no you need reforming.. My head would cock to the right or left with non- understanding...My insiide would say, Why would anyone want to reform my love of God, God is everywhere and in everything. And tolerance of others beliefs? Often I would not say much...depended on the person and everything else. Learning Yoga and its spiritual practices has only deepened my own faith...it is in the opening of ones heart wider... For me its about finding the bridges... to unite us all...Saints and Sages know this.. and teach this.. when we are ready we learn.... And I definately agree with rummuser on being empty. Its like certain saints say be a beginner....with your personal meditation, contemplation, prayer! Its a practise to embrace every moment. In everything!!!! Jean, rummuser, and all,

I just love your comments!

As I am a Christian… I was raised Catholic each time I have been greeted by so many not all but many… They have said this Oh no you need reforming.. My head would cock to the right or left with non- understanding…My insiide would say, Why would anyone want to reform my love of God, God is everywhere and in everything. And tolerance of others beliefs?
Often I would not say much…depended on the person and everything else. Learning Yoga and its spiritual practices has only deepened my own faith…it is in the opening of ones heart wider…

For me its about finding the bridges… to unite us all…Saints and Sages know this.. and teach this.. when we are ready we learn….

And I definately agree with rummuser on being empty. Its like certain saints say be a beginner….with your personal meditation, contemplation, prayer! Its a practise to embrace every moment. In everything!!!!

]]> By: rummuser http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/10/12/what-i-learned-from-losing-loved-ones/comment-page-1/#comment-2225 rummuser Wed, 15 Oct 2008 15:43:39 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=562#comment-2225 I just visited your earlier post and offer you my compliments on a well written one. Yes, now I can see where you are leading. There is the other way of looking at the inner life - to empty it so that new ideas have space to come in! Somewhat like spring cleaning! rummusers last blog post..<a href="http://rummuser.com/?p=326" rel="nofollow">Old Is Gold.</a> I just visited your earlier post and offer you my compliments on a well written one. Yes, now I can see where you are leading.

There is the other way of looking at the inner life – to empty it so that new ideas have space to come in! Somewhat like spring cleaning!

rummusers last blog post..Old Is Gold.

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