Comments on: What I Learned From Being Dumped By My Best Friend http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/ Stress Hardiness, Optimizing Stress, Being Fully Alive Sun, 05 Feb 2012 07:33:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Anais Alvarez http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-2/#comment-5614 Anais Alvarez Thu, 22 Sep 2011 20:22:15 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-5614 I lost my best friend last night.. He slowly over time replaced it and I barely noticed it. It hurt so bad.. I don't even know how to deal with this kind of pain. He was like a brother that knew me more than anyone in the world.. Things change and people forget you and that's life.. I lost my best friend last night.. He slowly over time replaced it and I barely noticed it. It hurt so bad.. I don’t even know how to deal with this kind of pain. He was like a brother that knew me more than anyone in the world.. Things change and people forget you and that’s life..

]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-2/#comment-5433 Jean Wed, 22 Jun 2011 08:52:58 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-5433 Marley, Please keep in mind a lot of people have gone through the same thing and wind up stronger and happier than before. If you work it right that can be true for you too. As bikehikebabe says, don't be afraid to get some professional help if you need it. It can speed your growth and recovery. Marley,
Please keep in mind a lot of people have gone through the same thing and wind up stronger and happier than before. If you work it right that can be true for you too. As bikehikebabe says, don’t be afraid to get some professional help if you need it. It can speed your growth and recovery.

]]> By: bikehikebabe http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-2/#comment-5432 bikehikebabe Tue, 21 Jun 2011 00:03:02 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-5432 Marley, Anyone who makes you feel like that is NO FRIEND. If you need professional help get it. But otherwise you'll get over it & realize later that nobody is worth suffering over. (Easy for me to say.) Marley, Anyone who makes you feel like that is NO FRIEND. If you need professional help get it. But otherwise you’ll get over it & realize later that nobody is worth suffering over. (Easy for me to say.)

]]> By: Marley http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-2/#comment-5431 Marley Mon, 20 Jun 2011 19:45:36 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-5431 I am going through a horrible friendship breakup right now as well, and it's the most painful thing I have ever been through. The situtation is leading to an almost debilitating depression for me, as this issue and the regrets around it pretty much consume my every waking second. I have no idea how I am going to get through it -- the feelings of shame, humiliation and deep sadness are so profound. How can I stop the obsessing? I am going through a horrible friendship breakup right now as well, and it’s the most painful thing I have ever been through. The situtation is leading to an almost debilitating depression for me, as this issue and the regrets around it pretty much consume my every waking second. I have no idea how I am going to get through it — the feelings of shame, humiliation and deep sadness are so profound. How can I stop the obsessing?

]]> By: Jessica http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-2/#comment-5357 Jessica Sat, 14 May 2011 00:18:00 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-5357 Thank you Jean and Wendy for the good wishes. It is good to know there are other people who feel that the loss of a friendship can be as hurtful sometimes as the loss of a romantic relationship. I will look for this book. Thank you for the recommendation Jean. Thank you Jean and Wendy for the good wishes. It is good to know there are other people who feel that the loss of a friendship can be as hurtful sometimes as the loss of a romantic relationship. I will look for this book. Thank you for the recommendation Jean.

]]> By: Wendy http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-2/#comment-5356 Wendy Fri, 13 May 2011 11:24:38 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-5356 Hi Jessica. I understand completely how you feel. Because I also felt and still do sometimes the pain of what I went though. See the friend I had talked about months ago was the worst person I have ever met. He did many unfair things to me and treated me like a very badly. I was fooled. We shared many memories. I was there for him for everything for his sorrows, pains, and for happy moments. But at the end no one had hurt me like he did. One thing I know is that he was NEVER the friend I was to him. And he will NEVER find anyone like me again. As I believe a lost of a friend can hurt as much as or even more than a brake of a romantic relationship. Because friends are for everything… But now I’m ok. I never had the chance to read the book because I couldn’t find it at my area. I still remember things and I’m still healing but I feel better everyday passing and I’m over him. One day you will be ok too. If you can read that book it will help you as Jean and bikehikebabe said. Pain is not forever because it will change too. Jessica, you show her who you really are… move on and live a better life than she do. Show her what is to lose a friend like you by directing your life into a better path and winning your challenges. But anyhow I know one thing, no matter how long it talks one day she will realize her fault and she will regret losing you. For me to heal, my religion and time helped. I hope this book and every other thing will help you too. Peace! Hi Jessica.
I understand completely how you feel. Because I also felt and still do sometimes the pain of what I went though. See the friend I had talked about months ago was the worst person I have ever met. He did many unfair things to me and treated me like a very badly. I was fooled. We shared many memories. I was there for him for everything for his sorrows, pains, and for happy moments. But at the end no one had hurt me like he did. One thing I know is that he was NEVER the friend I was to him. And he will NEVER find anyone like me again. As I believe a lost of a friend can hurt as much as or even more than a brake of a romantic relationship. Because friends are for everything… But now I’m ok. I never had the chance to read the book because I couldn’t find it at my area. I still remember things and I’m still healing but I feel better everyday passing and I’m over him. One day you will be ok too. If you can read that book it will help you as Jean and bikehikebabe said. Pain is not forever because it will change too. Jessica, you show her who you really are… move on and live a better life than she do. Show her what is to lose a friend like you by directing your life into a better path and winning your challenges. But anyhow I know one thing, no matter how long it talks one day she will realize her fault and she will regret losing you. For me to heal, my religion and time helped. I hope this book and every other thing will help you too.
Peace!

]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-2/#comment-5352 Jean Fri, 13 May 2011 01:59:02 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-5352 Jessica, You are mourning a big loss, and it's okay. As far as your family not understanding, I think some of us long for closer, more intimate relationships than other people do. The book that helped me a lot was <a href="http://www.amazon.com/How-Break-Your-Addiction-Person/dp/0553382497/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1305251593&sr=1-1-catcorr" rel="nofollow">How to Break Your Addiction to a Person</a>. That was years ago. I notice that another book, which I haven't looked at, gets 5 stars from Amazon reviewers: <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Past-Your-Breakup-Devastating/dp/0738213284/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1305251593&sr=1-3-catcorr" rel="nofollow">Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You</a>. The main thing is you can gain a lot from the experience if you handle it well. And plenty of people have gone through it and are willing to share their ideas. Good luck, and please let us know how it goes. Jessica,
You are mourning a big loss, and it’s okay. As far as your family not understanding, I think some of us long for closer, more intimate relationships than other people do. The book that helped me a lot was How to Break Your Addiction to a Person. That was years ago. I notice that another book, which I haven’t looked at, gets 5 stars from Amazon reviewers: Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You. The main thing is you can gain a lot from the experience if you handle it well. And plenty of people have gone through it and are willing to share their ideas. Good luck, and please let us know how it goes.

]]> By: Jessica http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-2/#comment-5351 Jessica Fri, 13 May 2011 00:54:09 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-5351 Hi Everyone, I just wanted to share something with a group of people who I feel a connection with having read all of your comments. I feel like nobody else understands. I am still dealing with the break up of a friendship. I had been best friends with a girl for three years. We shared everything. Spoke constantly. I was always there for her when she had issues with her boyfriend (which was a regular occurrence). Last year I suffered a bout of depression and she completely abandoned me. Told me to snap out of it and said I was looking for attention. I am so shocked to this day at how she behaved. Sometimes I feel like a fool because the reality is that I still miss her and think of the good times. It actually feels like someone in my life has died because I no longer have any contact with her. My family think it is strange how much I miss the friendship. Nobody understands. Hi Everyone,

I just wanted to share something with a group of people who I feel a connection with having read all of your comments. I feel like nobody else understands. I am still dealing with the break up of a friendship. I had been best friends with a girl for three years. We shared everything. Spoke constantly. I was always there for her when she had issues with her boyfriend (which was a regular occurrence). Last year I suffered a bout of depression and she completely abandoned me. Told me to snap out of it and said I was looking for attention. I am so shocked to this day at how she behaved. Sometimes I feel like a fool because the reality is that I still miss her and think of the good times. It actually feels like someone in my life has died because I no longer have any contact with her. My family think it is strange how much I miss the friendship. Nobody understands.

]]> By: Been left http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-2/#comment-4583 Been left Sat, 20 Nov 2010 10:41:20 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-4583 Dear Wendy,, Your strength, will and words has found it's way in our hearts.... I am "really" glad & happy to read that u r standing again.... And u"re right... (he is the so unlucky to lose a friend like u). ...I am sure too he will regret loosing u ; when life teaches him a lesson... best of luck to all of u .. God bless Dear Wendy,,

Your strength, will and words has found it’s way in our hearts…. I am “really” glad & happy to read that u r standing again….

And u”re right… (he is the so unlucky to lose a friend like u). …I am sure too he will regret loosing u ; when life teaches him a lesson…

best of luck to all of u ..
God bless

]]> By: Wendy http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-2/#comment-4576 Wendy Fri, 19 Nov 2010 06:36:49 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-4576 Yes bikehikebabe, and thanx to both of you... One truth I have learned in my life is, world is a lot harder for the kind people who care, love truly... Yes, I think I’m lucky and he is the one who is so unlucky to lose a friend like me. I'm sure that one day soon he will realize that! I'm not going to waste my valuable time on a loser who never loved or care for me like I did!!! I doubted he ever knew the meaning of “love”. Because I know the way he did abused that meaning all the time! I'm actually glad it happened this way. Now I’m free from him. No more heart breaks because of him. And I'm determined to acquire a better position than he is, he ever will, from profession, well being etc. I know I can do that!!! - let him see what I'm capable of!!! :) Take care you all... :) Yes bikehikebabe, and thanx to both of you…
One truth I have learned in my life is, world is a lot harder for the kind people who care, love truly…
Yes, I think I’m lucky and he is the one who is so unlucky to lose a friend like me. I’m sure that one day soon he will realize that!
I’m not going to waste my valuable time on a loser who never loved or care for me like I did!!! I doubted he ever knew the meaning of “love”. Because I know the way he did abused that meaning all the time!
I’m actually glad it happened this way. Now I’m free from him. No more heart breaks because of him.
And I’m determined to acquire a better position than he is, he ever will, from profession, well being etc.
I know I can do that!!!
- let him see what I’m capable of!!! :)
Take care you all…
:)

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