Comments on: What I Learned From Being Dumped By My Best Friend http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/ Stress Hardiness, Optimizing Stress, Being Fully Alive Thu, 11 Mar 2010 22:19:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Been Left http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-3406 Been Left Fri, 12 Feb 2010 04:27:56 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-3406 Hey Ochee ... salams... dont feel bad about what had happened to you.... inshaAllah its all good.... try your best to look at the light and not focus on what's bothering u ... be optimistic, and dont surrender for sorrow... Im sure God had Prepared for u a better future... have the belief, and smile ... with all best ... Ben Left Hey Ochee … salams…

dont feel bad about what had happened to you…. inshaAllah its all good….

try your best to look at the light and not focus on what’s bothering u …

be optimistic, and dont surrender for sorrow…

Im sure God had Prepared for u a better future…

have the belief, and smile …

with all best …

Ben Left

]]> By: Ouchee http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-3404 Ouchee Thu, 11 Feb 2010 21:42:05 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-3404 I got dumped by my best friend 3 days ago after 2 months of "the silent treatment". My heart aches constantly, and I am struggling to accept the deep loss I feel over it. I kept hoping it was a miscommunication, but she and her fiance finally wrote me a nasty message basically telling me to go to hades. It really hurts and everything reminds me of them. Worse yet... she was my former boss, and I thought I was going to get my old job back as I am moving back to the area in 2 weeks. Now I'm out of a much-needed job AND my best friend. I feel like a hole has been carved out where my heart used to be. I got dumped by my best friend 3 days ago after 2 months of “the silent treatment”. My heart aches constantly, and I am struggling to accept the deep loss I feel over it. I kept hoping it was a miscommunication, but she and her fiance finally wrote me a nasty message basically telling me to go to hades. It really hurts and everything reminds me of them. Worse yet… she was my former boss, and I thought I was going to get my old job back as I am moving back to the area in 2 weeks. Now I’m out of a much-needed job AND my best friend. I feel like a hole has been carved out where my heart used to be.

]]> By: Been Left http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-3125 Been Left Thu, 24 Sep 2009 10:45:00 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-3125 Dearest Kasper ... as long as u know that u havent commited anything against your relationship with him, thus, dont think much about it ... uve done ur part of the play, and if he is the one who decided to leave, then he is the one who is mistaken and would be loosing such a sincere friend like you ... Dont think much about him .. i know the feeling of being hanged without knowing the reason why of dumbping you ... i was hanged too for a year until my best friend told me the reason why , and it turned out that she was the kind who burries hatred within herself.. i never realized she was like that... not until she told me herself : ( ... anyhow , forget about him like how "seemingly" he forgot about u , running after him will not benefit you at all, Live your life, im sure uve got other gorgeous friends who deserve to be with : ) Regards, Been Left Dearest Kasper …
as long as u know that u havent commited anything against your relationship with him, thus, dont think much about it … uve done ur part of the play, and if he is the one who decided to leave, then he is the one who is mistaken and would be loosing such a sincere friend like you …

Dont think much about him .. i know the feeling of being hanged without knowing the reason why of dumbping you … i was hanged too for a year until my best friend told me the reason why , and it turned out that she was the kind who burries hatred within herself.. i never realized she was like that… not until she told me herself : ( …

anyhow , forget about him like how “seemingly” he forgot about u , running after him will not benefit you at all,

Live your life, im sure uve got other gorgeous friends who deserve to be with : )

Regards,
Been Left

]]> By: Kasper http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-3124 Kasper Thu, 24 Sep 2009 07:06:36 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-3124 Thanks for the response Jean. Its greatly appreciated. I will find a councillor and hopefully a good kind. There is a sense of mourning in this, as if I really lost a brother. I think you are right about letting go of trying to figure his dispositions out. Its futile. Thanks again. Thanks for the response Jean. Its greatly appreciated. I will find a councillor and hopefully a good kind. There is a sense of mourning in this, as if I really lost a brother. I think you are right about letting go of trying to figure his dispositions out. Its futile. Thanks again.

]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-3123 Jean Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:41:16 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-3123 It sounds as if it would pay to find a good counselor to help you let it go. "It leaves me clueless that sane people would cut off their best friend (I was his best friend as well) without any sort of explanation or personal words." People are complicated. there's no way of telling what was going on inside him, but you can get help figuring out why you're holding on to this for so long. It sounds as if you're mourning the loss of something dear to you. I personally would deal with the mourning and let go of trying to figure out why it happened. Good luck. It sounds as if it would pay to find a good counselor to help you let it go.

“It leaves me clueless that sane people would cut off their best friend (I was his best friend as well) without any sort of explanation or personal words.” People are complicated. there’s no way of telling what was going on inside him, but you can get help figuring out why you’re holding on to this for so long. It sounds as if you’re mourning the loss of something dear to you. I personally would deal with the mourning and let go of trying to figure out why it happened.

Good luck.

]]> By: Kasper http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-3122 Kasper Wed, 23 Sep 2009 15:51:36 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-3122 Thanks for writing about this experience. I was just searching online, for any other accounts from people with this experience, as I am still very much affected by a similar situation myself. I lost my best friend for 23 years, as he cut me off without explanation a couple of years ago. The first year was very difficult. Not a day passes without being reminded of this person, who was like a brother to me (I am a lonely child). Nightmares still haunt me and I have no idea how to deal with this. He refuses to respond to any dialogue that I try initiating, and told me two years ago, that he understood any attempt at contacting him as harrasment. At this point he again refused me an explanation. Since then I havent had contact to this individual. I wondered if he lost his marbles. But I can tell by his facebook, that he is just fine. I do not pry into it, but needed to see if he was real ill, since he was behaving as such. I am a very social person, with a lot of friends and generally liked. If anyone here has more advice on how to cope with this, I would love to get some pointers, since my psyche can not seem to work through this. Frankly its draining my energy and feels likes punishment to be left hanging with no explanation. I am a nurse, and very experienced in the fields of psychology, sociology, existentialism, inter personal relations, consciousness, coping mechanisms and the human condition as a whole. Somehow my subconscious seems to be unable to forget or process this relationship and manifests it through tedious and frequent dreams, that make me wake up fatigued. I thought, with all the thinking and inner dealing with this, that I had done, that two years would be a long enough while for it to fade. I must stress, that I am not obsessing about this and have lots of meaningful activities and relationships on a daily basis in my life. It leaves me clueless that sane people would cut off their best friend (I was his best friend as well) without any sort of explanation or personal words. Thanks for writing about this experience. I was just searching online, for any other accounts from people with this experience, as I am still very much affected by a similar situation myself.

I lost my best friend for 23 years, as he cut me off without explanation a couple of years ago. The first year was very difficult. Not a day passes without being reminded of this person, who was like a brother to me (I am a lonely child). Nightmares still haunt me and I have no idea how to deal with this. He refuses to respond to any dialogue that I try initiating, and told me two years ago, that he understood any attempt at contacting him as harrasment. At this point he again refused me an explanation. Since then I havent had contact to this individual. I wondered if he lost his marbles. But I can tell by his facebook, that he is just fine. I do not pry into it, but needed to see if he was real ill, since he was behaving as such. I am a very social person, with a lot of friends and generally liked.

If anyone here has more advice on how to cope with this, I would love to get some pointers, since my psyche can not seem to work through this. Frankly its draining my energy and feels likes punishment to be left hanging with no explanation. I am a nurse, and very experienced in the fields of psychology, sociology, existentialism, inter personal relations, consciousness, coping mechanisms and the human condition as a whole. Somehow my subconscious seems to be unable to forget or process this relationship and manifests it through tedious and frequent dreams, that make me wake up fatigued. I thought, with all the thinking and inner dealing with this, that I had done, that two years would be a long enough while for it to fade. I must stress, that I am not obsessing about this and have lots of meaningful activities and relationships on a daily basis in my life. It leaves me clueless that sane people would cut off their best friend (I was his best friend as well) without any sort of explanation or personal words.

]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-2616 Jean Wed, 08 Apr 2009 17:54:16 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-2616 Piter, I started this blog to share experiences and ideas with other people. Thanks for asking. :) Piter,
I started this blog to share experiences and ideas with other people. Thanks for asking. :)

]]> By: PiterKokoniz http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-2615 PiterKokoniz Tue, 07 Apr 2009 23:57:25 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-2615 Hi !!! ^_^ I am Piter Kokoniz. oOnly want to tell, that I like your blog very much! And want to ask you: what was the reasson for you to start this blog? Sorry for my bad english:) Tnx! Your Piter Hi !!! ^_^
I am Piter Kokoniz. oOnly want to tell, that I like your blog very much!
And want to ask you: what was the reasson for you to start this blog?
Sorry for my bad english:)
Tnx!
Your Piter

]]> By: RaiulBaztepo http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-2608 RaiulBaztepo Sat, 28 Mar 2009 23:50:50 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-2608 Hello! Very Interesting post! Thank you for such interesting resource! PS: Sorry for my bad english, I'v just started to learn this language ;) See you! Your, Raiul Baztepo Hello!
Very Interesting post! Thank you for such interesting resource!
PS: Sorry for my bad english, I’v just started to learn this language ;)
See you!
Your, Raiul Baztepo

]]> By: Been Left http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/09/14/what-i-learned-from-being-dumped-by-my-best-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-2564 Been Left Thu, 12 Mar 2009 09:38:13 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/?p=536#comment-2564 Dearest Amber S. dont feel sad, she's probably a person who doesnt deserve a tear... She definitley knew that what she told u would hurt u ... why would u cry for that? try to stand on the ground again... im sure u r strong enough to do it .. Farewell Dearest Amber S.

dont feel sad, she’s probably a person who doesnt deserve a tear…
She definitley knew that what she told u would hurt u … why would u cry for that?

try to stand on the ground again… im sure u r strong enough to do it ..

Farewell

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