Comments on: What I Learned From Being a Listening Post http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/ Stress Hardiness, Optimizing Stress, Being Fully Alive Fri, 12 Mar 2010 03:59:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/comment-page-1/#comment-2105 Jean Fri, 19 Sep 2008 02:49:00 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/#comment-2105 rummuser, I agree that you're handling more than enough being a care giver. You need to take care of yourself, too. MS is a horrible disease. My sister-in-law recently died from it. Her obituary is at www.haskins.yale.edu/browman/cpb_obit.pdf rummuser,
I agree that you’re handling more than enough being a care giver. You need to take care of yourself, too.

MS is a horrible disease. My sister-in-law recently died from it. Her obituary is at http://www.haskins.yale.edu/browman/cpb_obit.pdf

]]> By: rummuser http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/comment-page-1/#comment-2099 rummuser Thu, 18 Sep 2008 06:19:51 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/#comment-2099 Jean, what a surprise! I did not know that you had another blog going. I am glad that I posted about my listening experience and got to this post. Thank you. I can completely relate to your experience. Let me share another experience/s that I had a couple of years ago. I got involved with the local chapter of the Multiple Sclerosis Society through a good friend. For one one year I ran their local office as a volunteer and visited all the local patients quite frequently. This disease not only affects the person concerned, it also affects the entire family and the care givers, as you perhaps know. I had to listen to both the patients and the care givers and emotionally it was one of the most draining periods of my life. I had to give up to take up an assignment about a thousand kilometers away and stopped my association with the MSS. Despite now being back and repeated requests from them to join up again, I simply do not have the nerve, if that is the word to join again. I now restrict myself to being a good neighbor and friend to some friends who need help apart from what I have to do at home. This is all that I am able to handle now. Jean, what a surprise! I did not know that you had another blog going. I am glad that I posted about my listening experience and got to this post. Thank you.

I can completely relate to your experience.

Let me share another experience/s that I had a couple of years ago.

I got involved with the local chapter of the Multiple Sclerosis Society through a good friend. For one one year I ran their local office as a volunteer and visited all the local patients quite frequently. This disease not only affects the person concerned, it also affects the entire family and the care givers, as you perhaps know.

I had to listen to both the patients and the care givers and emotionally it was one of the most draining periods of my life. I had to give up to take up an assignment about a thousand kilometers away and stopped my association with the MSS. Despite now being back and repeated requests from them to join up again, I simply do not have the nerve, if that is the word to join again.

I now restrict myself to being a good neighbor and friend to some friends who need help apart from what I have to do at home. This is all that I am able to handle now.

]]> By: My Brain Is My Favorite Toy — cheerfulmonk.com http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/comment-page-1/#comment-1989 My Brain Is My Favorite Toy — cheerfulmonk.com Mon, 18 Aug 2008 05:06:34 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/#comment-1989 [...] say I never get bored, but I actively avoid getting in situations where that happens (unless it’s for a good cause). I was seriously depressed when I was a child because I was bored out of my mind, and I never want [...] [...] say I never get bored, but I actively avoid getting in situations where that happens (unless it’s for a good cause). I was seriously depressed when I was a child because I was bored out of my mind, and I never want [...]

]]> By: Results from the What I Learned From Odd Jobs Group Writing Project } Group Writing Projects http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/comment-page-1/#comment-1650 Results from the What I Learned From Odd Jobs Group Writing Project } Group Writing Projects Tue, 22 Apr 2008 10:07:52 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/#comment-1650 [...] What I Learned From Being a Listening Post, by Jean Browman at Stress to Power [...] [...] What I Learned From Being a Listening Post, by Jean Browman at Stress to Power [...]

]]> By: cheerfulmonk.com » An Unexpected Source of Power…the Sound of Your Own Voice http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/comment-page-1/#comment-1644 cheerfulmonk.com » An Unexpected Source of Power…the Sound of Your Own Voice Mon, 21 Apr 2008 04:04:57 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/#comment-1644 [...] in the jump seat behind him, ready to give advice when problems came up. And in a comment to last week’s post at Transforming Stress, bikehikebabe said when she’s tired she finishes her exercises by [...] [...] in the jump seat behind him, ready to give advice when problems came up. And in a comment to last week’s post at Transforming Stress, bikehikebabe said when she’s tired she finishes her exercises by [...]

]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/comment-page-1/#comment-1636 Jean Sat, 19 Apr 2008 04:59:53 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/#comment-1636 Jackie, It was clear she was getting a lot out of it, so it really was one of the best uses of my time in that period of my life. Thanks for coming by! Jackie,
It was clear she was getting a lot out of it, so it really was one of the best uses of my time in that period of my life. Thanks for coming by!

]]> By: Jackie Cameron http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/comment-page-1/#comment-1635 Jackie Cameron Fri, 18 Apr 2008 16:17:51 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/#comment-1635 Jean A friend told me that her therapist had a poster on the wall of her office saying " what you need is a good listening to" - I love that. How good does it feel to be listened to - or how bad when you aren't. I appeciate your listening in this story probably went above and beyond but what a gift you gave that lady. Jackie Jean A friend told me that her therapist had a poster on the wall of her office saying ” what you need is a good listening to” – I love that. How good does it feel to be listened to – or how bad when you aren’t. I appeciate your listening in this story probably went above and beyond but what a gift you gave that lady.
Jackie

]]> By: The Original “Odd Jobs” Master: Nancy Rica Schiff » article » What Would Dad Say http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/comment-page-1/#comment-1626 The Original “Odd Jobs” Master: Nancy Rica Schiff » article » What Would Dad Say Wed, 16 Apr 2008 20:48:15 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/#comment-1626 [...] What I Learned from Being a Listening Post by Jean Browman who was a volunteer ear. Reading this story, I think Jean must be the most patient person in the world. [...] [...] What I Learned from Being a Listening Post by Jean Browman who was a volunteer ear. Reading this story, I think Jean must be the most patient person in the world. [...]

]]> By: Jean http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/comment-page-1/#comment-1623 Jean Tue, 15 Apr 2008 03:59:26 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/#comment-1623 bikehikebabe, Thanks for your comment about talking and listening to yourself. And for your response to Mark's comment. My next post at Cheerful Monk will be about talking to ourselves, so I really appreciate your example of when you do it. Mark, Some of my favorite all time memories was when my daughter was little and we would snuggle in bed at night, talking about anything that took her fancy. I still miss that sometimes. bikehikebabe,
Thanks for your comment about talking and listening to yourself. And for your response to Mark’s comment. My next post at Cheerful Monk will be about talking to ourselves, so I really appreciate your example of when you do it.

Mark,
Some of my favorite all time memories was when my daughter was little and we would snuggle in bed at night, talking about anything that took her fancy. I still miss that sometimes.

]]> By: bikehikebabe http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/comment-page-1/#comment-1622 bikehikebabe Mon, 14 Apr 2008 20:20:22 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/04/13/what-i-learned-from-being-a-listening-post/#comment-1622 Hi Mark: It's a well known fact that men want to fix things--find a solution. Women just want them to listen. I learned my lesson about 30 years ago when I wanted to fix a daughter's problem. She told me then, she didn't want advice. Just wanted to be heard. Hi Mark: It’s a well known fact that men want to fix things–find a solution. Women just want them to listen. I learned my lesson about 30 years ago when I wanted to fix a daughter’s problem. She told me then, she didn’t want advice. Just wanted to be heard.

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