The quality of our lives depends on how we focus our energy and our attention.
The little girl in the picture isn’t conscious of her wet and messy hair. She’s absorbed in the moment, enjoying the passing scene. She’s fully alive in spite of the rain. And that’s what this site is about, living our lives more fully.
But, you might say, she’s just a kid, obviously well cared for, with no responsibilities. Why shouldn’t she be having a great time? So let me ask you this: were you happier being a kid than you are right now? Would you go back to those days? I sure wouldn’t. Having the freedom to make my own decisions is part of it, of course. But as a kid I hated being a victim of my emotions. For me the best thing about being an adult is the ability to use my emotional energy wisely.
Buttons still get pushed…and that’s just fine. One of the most important things I’ve learned in life is that emotions are just energy, to be used as we choose. How do we use it wisely? The title of this blog is Transforming Stress Into Personal Power, and to me stress is emotional energy that is harmful rather than constructive. Personal power is having a sense of meaning, direction, and purpose in life…and the ability to express that purpose in the outside world. It’s knowing deep in my heart that what I do makes a difference.
So how do we transform negative emotions into positive energy? I’ve been teaching that for the past 14 years in the form of stress management. One of the basic tools I’ve developed is the Traits of Stress-Hardy, Resilient People. I’m reasonably certain these guidelines have made a difference in some people’s lives. I know for a fact they’ve made a big difference in mine.
What about you? What do you do to live life more fully? Do any of the traits resonate with you? Do you think developing any of them more fully would make a different in your life? My posts are meant as food for thought, designed to encourage sharing. Please tell us your thoughts in the comments section.
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