Comments on: Honoring Resistance http://stresstopower.com/blog/2007/07/29/honoring-resistance/ Stress Hardiness, Optimizing Stress, Being Fully Alive Sun, 14 Mar 2010 01:01:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Colleen Wainwright http://stresstopower.com/blog/2007/07/29/honoring-resistance/comment-page-1/#comment-29 Colleen Wainwright Tue, 31 Jul 2007 02:19:52 +0000 http://stresstopower.com/blog/2007/07/29/honoring-resistance/#comment-29 <p>A few things by way of clarification. First, Greg is not my therapist; he is a certified hypnotherapist, but we are doing this as a side project—sort of an artistic experiment. Also, I am after "achievements of magnificent fulfillment" as you put it, but I've come to realize that largely, my life is my work; or to be more specific, living my life out loud and externalizing the process is my work. So the experiment, which he was interested in doing as part of his work, dovetailed perfectly with mine.</p> <p>You make an excellent point about different types of resistance. We discussed this same phenomenon in the comments section of the post you're referencing. There is certainly something good about certain types of procrastination, for example: sometimes, it's about letting something "stew" until ready. And with my psychotherapist (i.e., not Greg), I've done a lot of work getting in touch with the part of me that can say "no"--I suppose it would be The Protector, if you wanted to put a label on it. That part of me was pretty weak when I first went to therapy in my 20s, and over the years, I've had to work assiduously at letting that voice be heard.</p> <p>Finally, I think I'll have to write more about The Resistor at some point because clearly, I've not done it justice. While it's a powerful force, it's just the yin to one's own yang—the desire to create that pushes back against the desire for stasis. It's not evil; it just is.</p> <p>Fascinating stuff, isn't it?</p> <p>xxx</p> A few things by way of clarification. First, Greg is not my therapist; he is a certified hypnotherapist, but we are doing this as a side project—sort of an artistic experiment. Also, I am after “achievements of magnificent fulfillment” as you put it, but I’ve come to realize that largely, my life is my work; or to be more specific, living my life out loud and externalizing the process is my work. So the experiment, which he was interested in doing as part of his work, dovetailed perfectly with mine.

You make an excellent point about different types of resistance. We discussed this same phenomenon in the comments section of the post you’re referencing. There is certainly something good about certain types of procrastination, for example: sometimes, it’s about letting something “stew” until ready. And with my psychotherapist (i.e., not Greg), I’ve done a lot of work getting in touch with the part of me that can say “no”–I suppose it would be The Protector, if you wanted to put a label on it. That part of me was pretty weak when I first went to therapy in my 20s, and over the years, I’ve had to work assiduously at letting that voice be heard.

Finally, I think I’ll have to write more about The Resistor at some point because clearly, I’ve not done it justice. While it’s a powerful force, it’s just the yin to one’s own yang—the desire to create that pushes back against the desire for stasis. It’s not evil; it just is.

Fascinating stuff, isn’t it?

xxx

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